McNair: A Legacy Spiraling Downward?July 7, 2009
Steve McNair was a player. And now we know it.
Oh, sure, he was a gritty, gifted leader on the field. The kind of QB you’d want in your huddle most any day. And, for the most part, to anyone who wasn’t an absolute insider, a pretty good guy in the community, too. A good guy, who kept his nose clean and was an asset to the community. At least, that’s what I hear most of my colleagues and friends here in Nashville say (I moved here only a year ago). And, I won’t deny that someone who makes a mistake now and again can’t be a great person or an asset to a community. They absolutely can and in a big way. We all make mistakes. It’s important that you hear me say that. I’m not here to judge McNair, and God knows I’m a flawed son of a gun, myself … as depraved and sinful as anyone else. And, he probably was, in all likelihood, a great guy to be around … unless you were his wife or kids – in which case, he wasn’t (around, that is).
Alright. Maybe that’s not fair. Maybe he was around alot … except when he was off running around with one of, what appears to be, numerous girlfriends he’d had over the years.
And, I agree that it’s no one‘s place to question a man’s love for his children, right? But, the question has got to be asked, doesn’t it? … if you really love your children, do you cheat on their mother? For years? Do you spend the money that could secure not only their futures, but the futures of their children and grandchildren on Cadillac Escalades for cheap sex with 20-year old girls? Are those the lessons that fathers whose children are truly their first priority teach them?
I don’t know … I mean, a man was brutally murdered and four children have lost their father. A woman has lost her husband. I really, really am not here to disparage the guy. And God knows, I’m NOT getting around to saying “he had it comin'”. But, it’s disheartening, to a degree, to see what really happened get glossed over or flat-out dismissed by so many because the man was a great football player.
When you get right down to it, I mean, when you really boil it down, I guess what wins out, for me, is this: If he’d been at home, being a husband to his wife and a father to his children, and not running around with a 20-year old girl, he’d still be alive.
I know that sounds harsh. And, I’m really sad that this has happened, just like everyone else … But, I can’t shake that thought.
What are yours?